How To Create A Life You Love

by Nicholas de Castella

Point Form Summary...

We are manifesting our lives in accordance with the state of our heart.
These are physical sensations
First we feel it then we see it
Often we are not aware of the state of our heart
It is not important what we are thinking, wishing, hoping but what we are feeling
When your heart is relaxed and open everything flows easily.
The key is to consciously practice creating positive heart states.
Heart Practice
Check in and notice the state of your heart regularly
Cultivate states consistent with the outcomes you desire

We are manifesting our lives in accordance with the state of our heart.

In this article, I'd like to suggest that: First, we feel it, then we see it. It is not important what we are thinking, wishing, hoping but what we are feeling. When your heart is relaxed and open everything flows easily.
The key is to consciously practice creating positive heart states.

So the Heart Practice is...
Check in and notice the state of your heart regularly. Cultivate states consistent with the outcomes you desire.

Here's a bit more detail understanding...

Open or Closed Hearted?
Heart states include: open or closed, Tight or relaxed, in a state of love or fear.
Gratitude or resentment (anger, unforgiveness). Note that many of these
descriptions are physical sensations and they can indeed be physically felt in our hearts.

These are physical sensations
I have seen many people who had a history of chest pain, who, after having done
a breathwork session and had a good cry (the chest is where we hold sadness),
be greatly surprised that after all their heart check-ups that found nothing, their
physical pain is gone! Sometimes these pains have been there for up to ten
years!
I am talking about real physical sensations of pleasure and discomfort that we
experience in conjunction with the moods we carry. That is why we should
practice forgiveness, because it actually hurts our hearts to stay in a sate of
resentments. We want 'them' to suffer but we are suffering in the present moment.

First we feel it then we see it
Whatever we are feeling inside our hearts is reflected in what happens in our
daily life. How we are feeling gives rise to what we think, how we act, how we do
what we do, the results we get and the responses we get from others.

And more magically, I have noticed after 30 years of careful observation that what
happens in my day (apparently by coincidence [co-incidence]) is a reflection of
what's happening in my heart, more than what is in my mind. I can be wishing it
were this way and hoping it will be that, but underneath, if these urges are based
in fear and its associated grasping, as wishing and hoping usually are, then the
chances are high that I will not get what I want. I believe that our thoughts are
minuscule in their power to manifest compared to our feelings.

Often, we are not aware of the state of our hearts
Often, we are not aware of what state our heart is in. I might think I am cool and
collected, but I may also be just holding it together. The kids come in in their lively
way and I lose it - big time - Oops! Dreams (a subject for another day) can be a
good indication of what is going on below the surface chatter of my mind. To find
out what's going on inside, I do a heart centring. Sit quietly and breathe into my
heart and feel.

For example
If I feel a bit drained or overloaded, it is common for clients to cancel sessions.
Another example: We just had our phone line down for 2 weeks. At the same
time, I was struggling with getting our New Year's mail out together. Inside, I
felt stuck and blocked (I was dealing with what we breathworkers call 'Birth trauma'
- which I am sure at 10lbs 4 oz was a struggle).
The phones going down were a perfect expression of my difficulty expressing my
self in our mail-out. Miraculously, the day we finished the mail out the phones
came back on!

Another one: I have been practising manifesting car parks for about 30 years
now. Now I don't even have to think about it I just drive into a car park and quite
often I will get the car park closest to where I want to go. (After 20 years of
marathon running, I try to walk the least possible distance. Figure that out?)
When your heart is relaxed and open, everything flows easily.
Good things just seem to come our way. Things can still seem to be bad, we get
challenges still, but if we keep our hearts open, then it is amazing how they can
turn into something good.

Get your heart open
If you feel inside your heart you feel tight, blocked, closed, fearful or numb
then it is a good idea to do some work on healing and opening it up again.
Unresolved past experiences and family conditioning cause these negative heart
states. Passionately Alive seminar is about learning how to open our heart and
cultivate positive heart states.

HOW TO USE THIS
It is vitally important to practice consciously creating positive heart states.
What's really important in all this is that we practice cultivating feelings that are
aligned with what we want to manifest. For example, if you want to manifest
money but in your heart you resent people who have lots of money and you are
tight when it comes to spending money then the vibration you are putting out is to
block the flow of money into your life. A better way of going about manifesting
money is to open your heart around it. This means rejoicing in others good
fortune, paying your bills with gratitude, celebrating the mney you do have,
enjoying it and being generous - not just with money, but also with your time,
energy, compassion and love. Equally true is wanting good health. If you spend
your time on extreme diets fearing that you will get sick you are planting seeds of
illness. If you give thanks for your body, nurture and celebrate its wonders, you
are sowing seeds for health.

It is important to cultivate an open, kind, peaceful, happy and loving heart.
Be aware of the state of your heart. Is it open or closed? Tight or relaxed. In a
state of love or fear. Gratitude or resentment (anger, unforgiveness).

Heart Practice
Firstly, to regularly become more aware of the state of your heart.
Take time out to stop and breathe, and feel into your heart. For example, next time you find
yourself complaining about something, notice if your heart is tight or relaxed.
When you do a kind deed for someone, check again. When sitting at red lights, check
again.

Secondly, practice cultivating heart states that resonate with what you want to
manifest. A good way to get an idea of the state you want to cultivate is to
imagine that you already have what it is you want to manifest. Then ask yourself:
"How would I feel with this" (happy, loving, kind, tender, grateful, peaceful,
generous...) Breathe into this feeling and allow it to expand in your awareness.
You will find that your life manifests in accordance with the predominant state you
hold.

I would love to hear when you have success with this, please let me know.

If you don't have instant success, then keep on practising till you do!